“What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.” How many times did my mother say that to me when I was a child? Enough to annoy me, that’s for sure. The phrase came up again the other day, when a college friend quoted it to me after I had a really low day in my own current struggle. While I recognized it was from the heart, in my head my response was the usual “Well then I must be the strongest person in the world.” If the phrase is true, then we should be a world of superhumans walking around with muscles bulging and growing bigger everyday. Instead, I see a world where good people struggle, and people who only think of themselves thrive. Why? Or am I really the selfish one, who sees my struggles as more important than anyone else’s.
I recognize that my struggles are nothing compared to some of the things others face right now. I am witnessing, long distance and through the eyes of social networking, the struggles of a small family whose son was born too early. They face each day without knowing whether or not he will survive, and yet they do it with beauty, grace and passion as well as with pain, fear, and strength. Meanwhile, they visit this beautiful growing child daily, while the husband searches for work in a struggling economy. Yes, if this does not kill them it will make them stronger, but I want to know why these good people have to struggle at all?
Is the journey the struggle? Is the struggle the journey? Is the struggle what makes life worth living? I wish I could answer these questions, but beyond knowing that somehow my family and I will move past our present situation, there is no answer. We will find jobs, homes, passion, friends . . . all of the things that make life worthwhile. But, will I be satisfied once we’ve moved on, or will I simply look for another struggle? Because, if it is the struggle that makes us stronger, then maybe contentment and satisfaction is giving into weakness. If that’s true, then there is definitely something wrong with this world.
- Are You Trying To Find Your Life Purpose? (itakeoffthemask.com)