His eyes held everything. Pain, sadness, confusion, frustration, and love.
I will remember that look forever, because that was the last time I saw my father before he passed away on December 9, 2012. I try not to think about that day, because my biggest regret is that I didn’t go see him just one more time, one more moment with him even if it was in a room in rehab center.
The day I saw those eyes, my mother still held hope that he would be able to return home, that she could take care of him. He was only in rehab after a UTI had put him in the hospital. But I knew, deep in my heart I knew, that it was going to happen soon. He had given up the fight against the disease that had taken him away long before, a disease that is a nightmare for anyone like my Dad who thrived on his intellect and his charm. Alzheimer’s eats away at both of those super powers.
No, the man who looked at me with those eyes was ready to leave, but didn’t want to go. I’m not sure he knew who I was, but he did know that he loved me.
I will remember those eyes forever.
But this isn’t the story of that heartbreaking time. Instead, it is a story of hope. Many things have changed since that day, and I am now in a position to use my creativity to inspire hope, to imagine healing, to help.
With my good friend and business partner, Kristie (whose mother is facing Alzheimer’s now), we have decided to offer a special writing salon on The Longest Day to raise money to help the fight against Alzheimer’s Disease. All proceeds will go to the Alzheimer’s Foundation. This is the perfect opportunity to experience the joy and freedom of a Gateless salon–where you explore and create within a container of safe and positive feedback, while also doing some good for a worthy cause.
“The Longest Day is the day with the most light — the summer solstice. On June 20, people from across the world will fight the darkness of Alzheimer’s through a fundraising activity of their choice.”Alzheimer’s Association
I realize this event is also Father’s Day, and for me that makes it all the more special. It is a way to honor my father, and all the fathers (and mothers) who fall victim to this difficult disease. We plan to make this special, fun, salon where we write from the place of hope and good memories. I would love to see you there! If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out. Or simply register through EventBrite by clicking on the button below.